Tag: self esteem

3 Style Items That Empower Me

***Guest post by Melissa Jellie from Individually Chic***

As a female, it’s important to me that when I go out, I feel confident. Many of the jobs and fields that I work in are prominently male. My style changes daily based on my mood of the day. Some days I dress in all pink and dresses, while other days I dress more street or punk. Some days it’s a combo of many style! While I’m usually confident, here are three style items that make me feel extra empowered:

 

Shoes

I have a lot of shoes. Probably too many. There are a few pairs of shoes that I own, though, that I rock no matter what the rest of my outfit is.

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My pink Dr. Martens are one of my favorite pairs of shoes that I own. I was on a waitlist for about 2 years just to get the perfect pair of pastel pink boots – which sold out so quickly. These boots are bigger than some of the other boots that I own and I just feel cool when I’m out wearing them. I can do anything.

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My black heels also empower me. These heels aren’t just any heel – they’ve got a beautiful loud click when you walk on a hardwood floor. There’s something about that click that makes me walk with a bit more confidence. I feel like a model or something. If you’re in a quiet store, you may feel a bit awkward, but I’ve learned not to. As long as you look confident, nobody will question it.

 

Leather Jacket

I got my first leather (pleather) jacket a long time ago. It was a beautiful moment. I was probably in high school still. It was a black leather jacket with a cool splatter effect on the inside. I rocked it with every outfit that I wore.

brown gold leather jacket

Since then, my collection has grown. I now own 7 leather jackets all in different colors so that I can have one for anything I wear. When I wear a leather jacket, it automatically spices up my outfit and I’m fierce. Now pair a leather jacket and one of the shoes from above. OH BOY.

 

A Bold Lip

I actually wear a paler lip on most days – either a pastel pink or a more nude color. It’s just easier for my every day life. When I’m going out for the night or just when I feel like it, however, I throw a bolder, brighter lip color on. These are the days when I actually get the most compliments. A bright lip not only brightens my face up, but my personality because I KNOW I’m pulling it off well. I especially love wearing a bold lip with a black top or jacket to make it pop a little more.

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So combine a cool shoe, a leather jacket, and a bold lip and you will have an extra boost of confidence to guide you through the day! Even separately, these all empower me and make me feel like a strong woman, whether I’m at work or just out grocery shopping.

By Melissa Jellie from Individually Chic. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook, Instagram, and Pinterest.

I Dare You To Be Body Confident

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This is a guest post by Nisaa from thedowndeep.com.

Welcome, welcome to the conversation!

I first and foremost want to thank Morgan for featuring me at Her vs. World!

Today, I want to present something to you that might be a little more… edgy and direct than my usual style – we’ll see how it goes.

So in that case, I’ll take a minute to introduce myself:

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Hi, I go by Nisaa, better known as the founder of a blog called Down Deep.

I’m your average high school liberalist.

My dream schools are NYU, Colombia Uni, U of Miami, and the “Berk.”

I’m slightly more anti-social than people would normally assume by my personality.

I ask lots of questions.

I work like 3 jobs… in school full time, and I’m somehow still breathing.

Down Deep is my favorite thing to do on my free time. That and web surf Instagram feeds.

Oh and one last thing that this article will actually be about–I hate body shaming. Hate it.

With that said, I’m sure you can judge by your observations that I am most definitely dynamic, not at all complex. I’m full of candid dreams and simple requirements – nothing much to see here. But today I kind of want to hone in on the last quirk about me. Especially with the situation of a new leader in town and the presence of one of the most sacred (or simply recognized) months in black history, it’s an important thing to highlight and discuss.

Knowing myself, I am aware that this is an issue that I happen to belabor at an abnormally-constant rate. So. Instead of just writing an 8 page lecture about the importance of body confidence, I’ll make a list of 5 Thoughts I dare you to think regarding body-power and body-recognition. Enjoy!

  1. My body is my own. Not to be shamed, compared with, envied, categorized, represented, nor degraded.

Every women today does not recognize that their body is a paradise. A heaven for the children, a source of pleasure for themselves and for their partners, may they choose to engage with one. Euro-centric beauty standards have become an uncomfortable counter-reflection in the mirrors of colored boys and girls. Thankfully, pop culture is starting to recognize the rainbow true to the spectrum of beauty and acknowledgement.

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  1. My body is a garb of royalty – to be adorned, adored, and acknowledged.

Body empowerment has become such a socio-political topic in media when, with all due respect, it’s my shit to comment on and my shit only. Too thin? Next. Too thick? Try again. And personally, I don’t subscribe to these standards. We women have to take responsibility of clarifying societies place in terms of their say on our bodies. We want to blame media for our lack of empowerment and we have all rights to, but at the same time proactivity is the only method towards progress. Take a stand and be about it!

  1. My body is merely perceived as a perspective; it is crucial to realize that, regarding judgment, what is good is true in my book. And what is bad is… well, propaganda.

Body confidence is all about knowing that you are all you have to offer and being sure that this will always be enough. Taking ownership of your bid to the world is how we can maintain a positive ecosystem rid of body shaming. As cliché as it sounds, the haters are GONNA hate. What else can we do but turn a cheek and tell them to kiss it?

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  1. Blemishes? Imperfections? whAT ERR THOOOOSSEEE?

Flaws are not flaws as much as they are distinctions. While you’ll find me preaching about inner beauty constantly, I will always advocate for conjuring your inner Beyoncé strut and working it in the faces of all those who told you that you couldn’t. Admire the unique assets custom-flaunted by the one and only You.

  1. My body is the business and I am the BOSS, running this enterprise since day 1. As any business does, mine has its quirks, but what business has ever thrived and grown from insecurities?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never met a CEO that didn’t know how to take a compliment. I know I’m sort of belaboring it, but… OWNERSHIP, ACKOWLEDGEMENT, AND CONFIDENCE! Women today have to learn how to remember the women they wanted to be when they were younger… and then BE her with the necessary edits and “glow ups” included. Be a leader for the little girl in you who started believing somewhere along the span of puberty that she wasn’t the shit anymore.

With that said, what are your thoughts on body confidence? Make sure to share them on social media!

P.S. Your “Challenge of the Week” is: Take a bunch of selfies… and actually POST them… EVERYWHERE! #BeBodyConfident

Want to read more from Nisaa? Visit her blog thedowndeep.com and follow her on Instagram and Twitter.