Lazy Girl Gets (Somewhat) Fit

Lazy Girl Gets (Somewhat) Fit

You’re probably reading the title of this post and thinking, “Whaaaat?! Morgan’s in the gym??” 

Yes girl. I’ve actually been in the gym, working out regularly for the past 3 weeks. That may not seem like a big deal to some of you Instagram fit people out there, but that’s an all-time record for me.

When it comes to physical activity, I’m about as lazy as they come. I never had an interest in playing sports growing up. In gym class when we had to do the mile run, I walked. That was back when I could eat as many chicken tenders dipped in ranch as I wanted without gaining a pound.

I’m 25, almost 26, so obviously my metabolism isn’t what it used to be(that’s so cliche but true). I decided it was finally time to stop making excuses and actually get in shape. To be honest, I’m not overweight. Now I know there are people out there who consider anyone who isn’t stick thin overweight and that’s cool, that’s their opinion. But medical-wise I’m not overweight. I’m on the upper end of average and I’m fine with it. My decision to start working out has little to do with the way my body looks and more to do with making me feel better overall and giving me something to do when I’m bored.

Like I mentioned in my last post, my friend Sam was a big influence on me wanting to get into shape. She had her second child last June and started on a fitness journey a little over a month ago to lose the baby weight. She’s been kicking ass and inspired me to do the same. Going to the gym with her helps a lot, because she pushes me to do more than I would do on my own(I told y’all I’m lazy). Plus it’s fun– it’s like we’re hanging out at the mall or Starbucks… but we’re at the gym working out.

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We’ve been working out 3-4 days a week and I’ve been tracking my workouts(heart rate and calories burned) on my Apple Watch. For the workouts I do 20 minutes of cardio on the treadmill, then lift weights for about an hour. One day I do arms, one day legs, and one day full body(and another day full body if I’m able to work out 4 days that week). I also use the MyFitnessPal app to track the calories I intake and my macros. Although I try to consume a certain number of calories a day, I’m not really eating clean. I’ve been watching what I eat somewhat by making healthier choices, but if I’m really craving something I’m still gonna eat it whether it’s healthy or not.

If I end up losing some weight from being more active then I’ll be happy. If I feel healthier and no longer lose my breath from walking a few feet, but don’t lose any weight I’ll be happy too. I’m gonna continue to be happy with my body the way it is, no matter what size I am and no matter what anyone else’s opinion of it is. And I hope you ladies reading this are content with your bodies as well, no matter what shape or size you are. And if you’re not fully content with it, that’s okay too. If you want to make some changes, then do it girl! But don’t let anyone but yourself tell you what to do with your body.

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It’s #SelfLoveSeason Y’all

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Hey loves! It’s March and we’re on the horizon of my favorite seasons, Spring and Summer. I love the warm weather, sunny skies, and bright colors… oh, and my birthday’s in July! Spring and Summer signify happiness, in my opinion.

One of the positives, but also negatives, of this time of year is that everything starts to slllooowww dowwwnnn. The days get longer, school winds down, and for me personally, work slows down as well. This leaves a lot more free time on my hands than usual. As someone whose life pretty much revolves around work and school, it’s easy for me to get bored and start questioning who I am outside of my accomplishments.

This year I’ve decided to dedicate spring and summer to finding new hobbies and activities I enjoy, and getting rid of some of the meaningless, time-wasting activities I participate in way too much. Sooo, I’m dubbing this time of year #SelfLoveSeason.

One of the activities(or should I say addictions) I’ve decided I need to cut wayyy back on is social media. Social media is the biggest waste of time. I start my day by scrolling through all my social media timelines and before I know it an hour or two have passed and I’m still in bed. I’m rarely even talking to anyone(except on twitter… hit me up) and I’m getting absolutely nothing out of what I’m reading/watching 95% of the time. It’s just a way to pass time and be nosey to see what drama is going on in ex-classmates’ lives.

So instead of scrolling aimlessly through my phone all spring and summer, I’ve decided to start doing more meaningful activities that will help me grow as a person, as well as make me more active:

  1. Read more – I’ve started reading a lot more recently. This is gonna come as a shock to any of my friends and family that are reading this, because I’ve honestly hated reading all my life, but I discovered motivational/self-help books and they actually keep my interest. They give me motivation for my day and also teach me things.
  2. Work out – It almost sickens me to write this, because I really enjoy just sitting on my ass, but I started working out again about 2 weeks ago. One of my best friends, Sam(who y’all have seen in some of my vlogs) and I joined a gym and we’ve been working out together 3 days a week. I’ve gotta admit that working out with a friend makes it so much more fun. I actually look forward to going to the gym now!
  3. Find new hobbies – Outside of work and school, I really have no hobbies. I’m going to try different activities to hopefully find some I really enjoy and want to continue. The first on my list to try is a local jewelry making class.

Happy #SelfLoveSeason!!

Teamwork Makes The Dream Work

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This is a guest post by Samantha from Doing Life With You.

There is no ‘I’ in team! How many times have you heard that in your life? It’s heard when playing sports, our place of work, and guess what…you’ll hear it related to relationships too! Relationships are ALL about teamwork and I am a firm believer in this!

 

As you begin to spend the rest of your lives learning about one another, you grow to be that team. The unbreakable bond between one another makes the ultimate best friends…#RelationshipGoals, am I right?

What’s unique, is being strong for your team. You come to learn that being strong is about taking turns. There will be moments of weakness, but this is when you see true teamwork of you and your best friend being strong FOR EACH OTHER.

You are a team because you trust one another, you care for one another, and your respect one another. Teamwork is support, commitment, and encouragement. The list can truly go on, but think about this.

When you’re in a relationship, you never brag about yourself being so amazing and so great “I this or I that” (1. you would sound ridiculous and 2. You would be self-centered and probably not in a relationship). Instead, you are always showing and telling about how amazing and great your other is, that’s how your inspire your team.

Here are some great ways to drive your team to greatness #TeamLove

  1. Love them in all of their forms
  2. Support each other through everything
  3. Keep each other motivated
  4. Do not fight AT each other, fight FOR each other
  5. Sacrifice for one another, this is inevitable if you love each other!
  6. Stay open and honest with each other, ALWAYS, communication is key
  7. Every single day, try and learn something new about them (every day may be hard for some, so strive for once a week) and be sure to tell them what you’ve learned!
  8. Love their flaws… they are flaws, BUT you will learn to grow and love them whether you like it or not
  9. Commit to one another, take the leap and truly put your whole faith with them
  10. Respect each other on every level that there possibly is for respecting

Now, don’t get me wrong. There will be blow ups in any relationship and NO the world is NOT made of sunshine and rainbows…THIS IS NORMAL PEOPLE. We are meant to crumble at times, but again…that’s why in a relationship we grow this bond!

You honestly may not even know that bond is happening, but you’ll get so excited about something and the first person you want to tell is your significant other! You are upset or have bad news, you tell them. You are mad and need to vent, you do it with them. You are growing that team bond every time you are with your person.

Embrace loving your best friend because it is truly the best feeling in the world to know you have them and to know you do it all together, as one.

As my fiance and I say… “it’s you and I against the world!” Go, fight, and conquer together!

Guest post by Samantha from Doing Life With You. Check out more of her writing on her blog and follow her on social media: PinterestInstagramTwitterFacebook

I Dare You To Be Body Confident

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This is a guest post by Nisaa from thedowndeep.com.

Welcome, welcome to the conversation!

I first and foremost want to thank Morgan for featuring me at Her vs. World!

Today, I want to present something to you that might be a little more… edgy and direct than my usual style – we’ll see how it goes.

So in that case, I’ll take a minute to introduce myself:

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Hi, I go by Nisaa, better known as the founder of a blog called Down Deep.

I’m your average high school liberalist.

My dream schools are NYU, Colombia Uni, U of Miami, and the “Berk.”

I’m slightly more anti-social than people would normally assume by my personality.

I ask lots of questions.

I work like 3 jobs… in school full time, and I’m somehow still breathing.

Down Deep is my favorite thing to do on my free time. That and web surf Instagram feeds.

Oh and one last thing that this article will actually be about–I hate body shaming. Hate it.

With that said, I’m sure you can judge by your observations that I am most definitely dynamic, not at all complex. I’m full of candid dreams and simple requirements – nothing much to see here. But today I kind of want to hone in on the last quirk about me. Especially with the situation of a new leader in town and the presence of one of the most sacred (or simply recognized) months in black history, it’s an important thing to highlight and discuss.

Knowing myself, I am aware that this is an issue that I happen to belabor at an abnormally-constant rate. So. Instead of just writing an 8 page lecture about the importance of body confidence, I’ll make a list of 5 Thoughts I dare you to think regarding body-power and body-recognition. Enjoy!

  1. My body is my own. Not to be shamed, compared with, envied, categorized, represented, nor degraded.

Every women today does not recognize that their body is a paradise. A heaven for the children, a source of pleasure for themselves and for their partners, may they choose to engage with one. Euro-centric beauty standards have become an uncomfortable counter-reflection in the mirrors of colored boys and girls. Thankfully, pop culture is starting to recognize the rainbow true to the spectrum of beauty and acknowledgement.

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  1. My body is a garb of royalty – to be adorned, adored, and acknowledged.

Body empowerment has become such a socio-political topic in media when, with all due respect, it’s my shit to comment on and my shit only. Too thin? Next. Too thick? Try again. And personally, I don’t subscribe to these standards. We women have to take responsibility of clarifying societies place in terms of their say on our bodies. We want to blame media for our lack of empowerment and we have all rights to, but at the same time proactivity is the only method towards progress. Take a stand and be about it!

  1. My body is merely perceived as a perspective; it is crucial to realize that, regarding judgment, what is good is true in my book. And what is bad is… well, propaganda.

Body confidence is all about knowing that you are all you have to offer and being sure that this will always be enough. Taking ownership of your bid to the world is how we can maintain a positive ecosystem rid of body shaming. As cliché as it sounds, the haters are GONNA hate. What else can we do but turn a cheek and tell them to kiss it?

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  1. Blemishes? Imperfections? whAT ERR THOOOOSSEEE?

Flaws are not flaws as much as they are distinctions. While you’ll find me preaching about inner beauty constantly, I will always advocate for conjuring your inner Beyoncé strut and working it in the faces of all those who told you that you couldn’t. Admire the unique assets custom-flaunted by the one and only You.

  1. My body is the business and I am the BOSS, running this enterprise since day 1. As any business does, mine has its quirks, but what business has ever thrived and grown from insecurities?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never met a CEO that didn’t know how to take a compliment. I know I’m sort of belaboring it, but… OWNERSHIP, ACKOWLEDGEMENT, AND CONFIDENCE! Women today have to learn how to remember the women they wanted to be when they were younger… and then BE her with the necessary edits and “glow ups” included. Be a leader for the little girl in you who started believing somewhere along the span of puberty that she wasn’t the shit anymore.

With that said, what are your thoughts on body confidence? Make sure to share them on social media!

P.S. Your “Challenge of the Week” is: Take a bunch of selfies… and actually POST them… EVERYWHERE! #BeBodyConfident

Want to read more from Nisaa? Visit her blog thedowndeep.com and follow her on Instagram and Twitter.

To The Girl Who Feels Insecure In Her Relationship

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All of us have times in which we feel unsure of how someone feels about us… but anyone who has dealt with failed relationship after failed relationship knows that those insecurities can come to stay.

Personally, every guy I dated was never serious about me or our relationship. They either kept the relationship a secret completely, talked(or did whatever) with other girls while we were together, or were just inconsistent. Having multiple people treat me in these ways made me start to believe something was wrong with me… or that I just wasn’t good enough to be loved and appreciated.

Well, I’m here to tell you that is NOT TRUE. Not true for me and not true for you. It doesn’t matter who you are, you’re worth being loved and treated with respect. You just have to believe you deserve it.

I know it’s hard to believe that when you’ve been hurt by multiple people, but just like you don’t become best friends with every single person you meet, you won’t be soulmates with every single person you date.

The thing is though, you can’t keep carrying your insecurities with you in every single relationship you get into. I had to learn this the hard way with my current relationship. My boyfriend is a real trooper for putting up with me in the beginning stages of our relationship(and sometimes still to this day) when I was pretty much punishing him for the way others had treated me. It’s not right to do that to someone who is trying to give you the love and respect you wanted all along.

I realized I was in the wrong, and I tried fixing it by looking up articles to figure out how I could stop feeling so insecure. All of the articles, though, pretty much said the same things: stop overthinking, don’t act out of insecurity, don’t feel paranoid… okay, don’t you think I’m TRYING to do those things?

That’s part of the reason I wanted to write this today. I know from personal experience that it’s impossible to just stop feeling insecure. One of the things that has helped me, though, is to realize that I was insecure because of myself. Not because of my boyfriend. Not because of the dudes who did me dirty. Not because of my friends. I was insecure because I didn’t trust myself and I was putting others up on a pedestal above me(and that’s a no go, because I’m a queen).

When I started to tell myself mentally all of my amazing qualities on a regular basis, I began to actually believe them and in turn believe why everyone in my life loves me so much. It also helped me to stop putting others up on a pedestal. Don’t get me wrong, I like spoiling my man but now instead of being the one that’s giving, giving, giving,  I make sure that my needs are being met as well.

I also use the failed relationships I was in to prove to myself that I will know when something isn’t right and when I should get out. Instead of feeling bad about myself because of how I was treated, those relationships proved I can trust my instincts. So instead of worrying and looking for signs that something may be wrong in my relationship, I can just enjoy it.

I still have moments in which I feel insecure, even being in a happy relationship today, but I think everyone has those moments sometimes. Be compassionate towards yourself in those moments and just remember that you deserve the best even when you’re feeling insecure.

What To Do When You DON’T Get Your Dream Internship

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It’s the first week of the new year and also soon to be the start of a new semester for college students. Since everyone’s thinking about their resolutions and goals for 2017, I want to talk to y’all about something that affected my whole year last year, even though it definitely shouldn’t have.

Last year around this time I was beginning to apply to all the prestigious broadcast media summer internships across the country. I applied to at least 20. I couldn’t wait until April came around so I could start receiving offers and choose which internship would be perfect for me and my career! I just knew I would be getting multiple offers.. I mean, I worked in the industry already, I had interned at a local radio station once before, and I had pretty good grades. I guess I was over confident, because I got NO offers. Zero.

Getting an internship in a big radio and TV market, such as New York or LA, had been one of my biggest motivations for going to college in the first place. My whole plan was to get one of those internships, work my ass off, and hopefully have a job waiting for me once I graduated. After I didn’t get a single offer I felt lost on what to do next. I also felt pretty discouraged. I had been working myself to death, not getting any “me-time”, and I had nothing to show for it. To be honest, I stopped working as hard in school,  because I didn’t see the point. Now, almost a year later, I realize my life and my career are not over just because I didn’t get my dream internship. Getting discouraged and slacking in other aspects of my life did nothing but set me back further.

So to those of you who may be going through this same situation, here are some tips to keep you focused and moving forward despite not getting your dream internship:

Think positively.

Blah blah.. I know. Everybody tells you to be positive when you’re in a crappy situation, but it’s true to an extent. I’m a firm believer in the saying, “what’s meant to be will be”. Maybe this opportunity wasn’t for you. It doesn’t mean you’re going to be any less successful than the student who did get the internship. It just means you’re going to find success through a different opportunity– one that will be a better fit for you. Think it into existence.

Keep doing what you were doing.

It may seem like your hard work hasn’t paid off, but as long as you keep working hard it eventually will. Giving up will definitely keep you from reaching success. As long as you give your all to work, school, or whatever it is you want to be successful at, you will be rewarded eventually.

Give yourself some “me time”.

I know I said to keep working hard, but also make sure you aren’t burning yourself out.(This is something I’m still working on myself) It’s okay to give yourself some free time to just chill and do things you enjoy. Don’t feel guilty about it. It’s necessary. Even if your me time is sitting on the couch eating a whole carton of ice cream and watching Teen Mom. After giving myself some time to relax I always feel so much more motivated and ready to take on whatever tasks I need to accomplish next.

Set new goals.

So your original plan didn’t work out.. It’s not the end of the world, even though it may feel like it at the time. Don’t stay stuck. Think about what the next steps are you need to take to continue furthering your education and your career. You can still get the end result you wanted without the internship. You just have to find a new route to get there.

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11 Fierce & Inspiring Vloggers

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I don’t know about you, but one of my guilty pleasures is watching vlogs on Youtube. Now that it’s December, it’s the wonderful time of year in which vloggers post new vlogs every single day until Christmas… Yep, it’s Vlogmas.

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A blog in which the postings are primarily in video form.

My favorite vloggers to watch are ones who make me want to get up off my ass and be productive. I decided to compile a list of some of my favorites so you can check them out too! They are:

 

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Kathryn Ann

Kathryn started out doing makeup and hair tutorials(which are still on her channel, btw), but she’s switched over to vlogging her daily life and experiences with nursing school. She also does study tips and cooking videos.

 

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LipsticknCurls

You might recognize Jade(known on Youtube as LipsticknCurls) from back in the myspace days.. She and her twin sister Simone always had their pics stolen for catfish profiles. After taking a hiatus from social media for a little bit, Jade came back and is now more “social media famous” than ever. In addition to vlogging, she does beauty, hair, and girl talk/inspirational talk videos about whatever’s on her mind.

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BeautifulDreaa

Drea’s channel focuses on her to day to day life as a young adult. When I first started watching her she was adjusting to post-college life and a new relationship. Now her vlogs show her experiences being a wife and new mother.

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LaVitaDiMeg

Megan is the first vlogger I ever watched! She’s known for her extremely popular beauty channel under the name Megan Leigh(previously known as ciaoobelllaxo). LaVitaDiMeg is her vlog channel where she shows her day to day life and also talks about living with anxiety and depression.

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MarissaLace

If you need some positivity and self-love in your life, Marissa’s channel is a go-to! After going through a tough break up around this time last year, Marissa has been doing #YearOfYou.. encouraging her viewers and herself to focus on loving themselves and making themselves happy.  She also does some healthy eating and advice videos.

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Bianca Bee

Bianca Bee is someone I personally relate to A LOT. She’s a college grad trying to make it in the media industry. She’s a blogger and youtuber, and her channel and blog focus on the current projects she’s working on in her career.

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Kalyn Nicholson

Watch one or two of Kalyn’s videos and you’ll be out buying all new home decor for your apartment! Kalyn posts home decor hauls and tips, motivational advice videos(her most recent is called 4 Steps To Get Your Sh*t Together), and healthy eating videos. She definitely has her sh*t together.

 

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Carly is a college grad and well-known for her fashion + lifestyle blog, carlycristman.com. She isn’t as active on her vlog channel as other youtubers…probably because she’s so busy with her career in the fashion industry and her blog. When she does vlog, it’s interesting to get a peak into her fast-paced life.

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Keesha Anderson

Keesha is one of those youtubers that you feel like you’re bff with after watching a few of her videos. She started out vlogging her life as a working college student, and now that she’s graduated, she does YouTube full time. She vlogs her everyday life and also does a few videos where she takes on serious topics she has experienced, such as coming out as a lesbian and domestic violence.

 

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Jenny started YouTube in high school doing comedy and dance videos. Now she does OTG(on the go) with Jenny Ho(Yes, that’s her last name), showing her life with friends, family, at work, and at school.

 

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Shameless Maya

What would happen if you shamelessly promoted yourself online for 365 days? This is exactly what Maya started doing back in 2012 while documenting it on YouTube. She now has 700,000+ subscribers and continues to post inspirational, techie, and fashion videos and vlogs about her life.

 

50 Life Goals

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You can’t get anywhere in life when you have no idea where you’re trying to go. I think about what I want to do with my life on a daily basis, because I feel that even my unrealistic goals can be attained as long as I’m making small steps toward them as frequently as possible.

Sooo here is my list of goals I want to accomplish in my lifetime, not that you care, BUT I encourage you to make a list of your own even if it’s just a mental list.. It really does help with staying on track.

 

Random Goals

  1. Attend The Grammy’s
  2. Purchase a Louis Vuitton bag
  3. Move to a new city/state
  4. Graduate with my Bachelor’s degree
  5. Buy a new car – Accomplished 5/3/16
  6. Buy my own home
  7. Buy a beach house
  8. Get one last tattoo
  9. Swim with dolphins
  10. Go parasailing
  11. Adopt another dog
  12. Get an out-of-state internship
  13. Read regularly
  14. Be involved in a social activism movement
  15. Blog regularly
  16. Purchase a white Baby Grand Piano
  17. Purchase a record player
  18. Attend The VMA’s
  19. Stay out of debt
  20. Go to a painting & wine/coffee class
  21. Do professional family portraits with my dog
  22. Donate to a women’s shelter

Career Goals

  1. Start my own entertainment media production company
  2. Host my own podcast
  3. Build a small studio in my home
  4. Do freelance voice-over work
  5. Do a TED Talk
  6. Start an organization that provides mentoring & tutoring for at-risk youth

Skill-Set Goals

  1. Learn to play piano well
  2. Take voice lessons
  3. Become proficient in HTML & CSS
  4. Learn to do photography
  5. Become fluent in Spanish

Travel Goals

  1. Visit Los Angeles
  2. Visit Las Vegas
  3. Visit Italy & eat pasta all day everyday
  4. Visit the Dominican Republic
  5. Visit Jamaica
  6. Visit Cabo San Lucas, Mexico
  7. See Lion King on Broadway again
  8. Take a cruise
  9. Attend Mardi Gras in New Orleans

Lifestyle/Family Goals

  1. Pay for a vacation for my parents
  2. Visit my family & close friends regularly
  3. Have a happy marriage
  4. Work out at least 3 times a week
  5. Cook everyday – Sooo I don’t cook EVERYDAY, but I have leftovers of something I cooked everyday at least.
  6. Cut out fast food for at least a month
  7. Host a holiday dinner

 

I’ll add to this list and check things off when they happen.

Don’t Rush Your Life!

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I’ve been 24 years old for a little over 48 hours now and it’s still crazy to me that I’m almost in my mid-twenties… What’s even crazier is that, as a kid, I thought by the time I was 24 I would have my life together. Riiight.. I still feel like a kid!

I will give myself credit though– I have set goals I’m working at everyday to try to accomplish(part of the reason I made this blog) and I’ve learned over the past few years that as long as I work hard and believe in myself and my abilities, things will work out.

I feel like a lot of “twenty-somethings” believe they HAVE to have their life together by a certain age, so they rush things and end up unhappy. I’m sure it’s normal to feel “rushed” at this age, but we really shouldn’t!

My best friend Chelsea and I have this conversation a lot. She’s getting ready to move out of state for the first time for grad school and isn’t 100% sure she’s gonna like the area of study she’s going for. She’s worried about that and also feeling behind, because some of her other friends and I are already working in our career fields. I told her I feel behind too.. Although I’m working in my career field, I’m still in school finishing up my bachelor’s, while the people I graduated high school with got their bachelor’s degrees 2 years ago. My point is we need to stop comparing where we are in life to where other people are in their lives. Everybody has different circumstances. School was a struggle for me growing up and I ended up dropping out of college for a few years before deciding to go back and take it seriously. Chelsea did well in school, so she got into college right away…another reason why she feels she should already have a job in a set career field. I just got lucky that my career field doesn’t require a 4 year degree. Rushing our careers, school, relationships, etc. to catch up with others our age doesn’t do anything except cause us to settle for things we really don’t want.(Sidenote: Try not to pay attention to the fake little happy personas people use on social media, because most of the time it’s not what it seems.) Take your time, work your ass off, and wait for the right opportunities for YOU.

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